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5 Horrifying Domestic Violence Cases

  • Lancaster, TX

In 2013, Jose Arreola was sentenced to 28 years in prison for his crimes against Maria Escamilla.  In 2011, Jose & Maria were living together when this case of domestic violence occurred.  Jose had beaten, stabbed and mutilated Maria.  Maria had been raped, sodomized and cut on her face, mouth, limbs, and sexual organs.

Read the full story here:  http://www.dallasnews.com/news/crime/headlines/20130206-dallas-jury-sentences-man-to-28-years-in-horrific-domestic-violence-case.ece

  • Boiling Water Horror

Suzanne Thomas, a 32 year old woman, entered into a relationship with a man known as Jason.  When they were initially dating, things were great, and both were very happy with their relationship.  In 2013, Suzanne invited Jason to move into her house.  This decision did not turn out as good as she though it would.  They began to fight and bicker more than they would talk.  Soon, during one of their arguments, Jason had shoved Suzanne into a wall, smashing her head into a wall, and simply said “Sorry Suzanne” and promised to never do anything like that again.  Suzanne was constantly living in fear and asked Jason to move out.  Jason complied and packed a bag, and said he’d come back later for the rest of his stuff.  Suzanne went out with her friends that evening, and when she returned late that evening, Jason was waiting for her.  He forced himself into her house at knifepoint, where he then proceeded to  stomp on her head and face until she lost consciousness.  When Suzanne woke back up, Jason was standing over her with a kettle of boiling water and proceeded to pour it onto Suzanne.  Jason then attempted to pour a second kettle but was interrupted when police busted through the door.

Read the full story here:  http://www.sellusyourstory.com/news/worst-cases-of-domestic-violence-39944/

  • Unrecognizable

The wife of Keith Allen McGill, a 45 year old individual, was just working at home, when her husband came in a drunken state to their house.  McGill came home after drinking with his friend and crashed through front door and knocked it off its hinges.  McGill proceed to punch and kick his wife and even stomped on her back, which she recently had surgery on.  The attack didn’t stop there.  McGill struck her with a lamp and tore her scalp, burned her with a cigarette, beat her with a belt, then choked and attacked her with a knife.  McGill also threatened to kill her and attempted to rip her tongue out of her mouth.  This brutality was only stopped when the neighbor that was drinking with McGill intervened and distracted the husband long enough for McGill’s wife to escape.  The wounds were so severe that the Deputy County Attorney, Ann-Marie McKittrick, said that her face was unrecognizable.

Read the full story here:  http://billingsgazette.com/news/local/crime-and-courts/prosecutor-assault-on-wife-worst-case-of-domestic-abuse/article_e0a3088c-05af-524d-a9f6-b5599cc815f5.html

  •  15 years a captive

Mary Clemons, now 40 years old, recalls her 15 year marriage, where she was constantly abused and held captive.  During these 15 years, Mary has been gagged, tied up, beaten, stripped naked in the woods, chased with a car, guns pulled on her, knives held to her throat, been suffocated, locked and up all day, and so much more.  Mary Clemons finally left for good, after her eighth time of leaving, after 7 hours of being suffocated and beaten and then raped for “make-up sex”.

Read her full story here:  http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/inspirational-stories/a18716/escaping-domestic-abuse/

  • Stabbed to Death

Alan Clinch, a 49 year old male, was stabbed with scissors after an argument with his wife about cleaning in 2012.  Alan is one of the male victims of domestic violence where the male was the victim and not the perpetrator.  In a 2010, CDC report, in a year’s time over 5 million men had been victims of intimate partner physical violence.

Read more about it here: http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-cornwall-34696595

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Haven House has been providing free and confidential services to
domestic violence and sexual assault survivors since 1978. 
This includes everything from providing a safe place to stay in our emergency shelter
to helping survivors reestablish their own households.

We can only do what we do, because of the support of great people like you. 
Would you help us to help survivors and consider donating $5, $10, or $20?

Thank you.




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10 Astonishing Sexual Assault Facts

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  1. 44% of victims are under age 18

  2. 80% of victims are under age 30

  3. Every 107 Seconds, another American is sexually assaulted.

  4. 68% of sexual assaults are not reported to police.

  5. 98% of rapists will never spend a day in jail or prison.

  6. Approximately 4/5 of sexual assaults are committed by someone known to the victim.

  7. 47% of rapists are a friend or acquaintance.

  8. In 1993, about 9.7 million Americans were sexually assaulted.  Due to the hard work of raising awareness and ending sexual violence, in the last 20 years, this has declined to 4.2 million.  That is a great thing to see, but we still have a long way to go to end sexual violence.

  9. About 3% of American men (or 1 in 33) have experienced either attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.

  10. Every 8 minutes, child protective services responds to a report of sexual abuse.

These facts are from www.rainn.org

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Haven House has been providing free and confidential services to
domestic violence and sexual assault survivors since 1978. 
This includes everything from providing a safe place to stay in our emergency shelter
to helping survivors reestablish their own households.

We can only do what we do, because of the support of great people like you. 
Would you help us to help survivors and consider donating $5, $10, or $20?

Thank you.




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5 Reasons People Stay in Abusive Relationship

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Often times looking from the outside in, it is easy to think “why do they stay in that relationship?!”.   Here are a few of the reasons and how you can help!  Let’s take a step into the shoes of those affected by domestic/dating violence.

  1. Hoping for change:

    If you have never been trained in the cycle of violence in relationships, it easy to hope that the situation will change and that the abuser will stop treating you badly.    However, more times than not, the abuser does not change and continues to escalate the cycle of violence.

  2. Thinking It’s Normal:

    If you grew up in a world where you only saw unhealthy relationships, then abuse would seem normal.  They may have never seen a healthy relationship and if they have they may not believe that they can achieve or deserve a healthy relationship.

  3. Dependence:

    One of the things that often occurs in abusive situations is that abusers will do what they can to exert control over the other.  This can be done by limiting access to funds, transportation, food and other items.  Places like Haven House are available all across the country, but sometimes those in abusive situations are unaware of the help that is available and the extent of help available.

  4. Nowhere to Go:

    Simply put, there are no friends or family to turn to for help.  Often times, for those who still have living family or friends they may not believe the survivor that they are experiencing abuse.

  5. Community Pressure:

    In many circles, leaving a relationship (even if abusive) is looked down on.  This not only friends and peers but also religious communities.  They would rather stay than be looked down with disdain.

So what can you do?

If someone you know is in an abusive relationship, listen to them and be supportive.  Don’t cast judgement on them.  For them leaving that relationship seems difficult and they knew good people who will help them out.

If you have questions or want to know more,  you can stop by one of our office locations to speak with an advocate.  We have a variety of tools that you can give your friend or family member that is experience abuse.  Our goal is to bring an end to domestic/dating/sexual violence in Northeast Nebraska and with your help we can!

Check out this more in depth article from Love is Respect.  View HERE.

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Haven House has been providing free and confidential services to
domestic violence and sexual assault survivors since 1978. 
This includes everything from providing a safe place to stay in our emergency shelter
to helping survivors reestablish their own households.

We can only do what we do, because of the support of great people like you. 
Would you help us to help survivors and consider donating $5, $10, or $20?

Thank you.




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8 Signs Your Child is Experiencing Dating Violence

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As a parent, you never dreamed or hoped to have your children enter into an abusive relationship. However, 1.5 million high school students nationwide experience physical dating violence each year. So it is likely that either your children or someone you know has most likely experienced dating violence. It is best to equip yourselves with the knowledge of the ever present signs that accompany an abusive relationship.

Here are some of the signs to keep an eye out for.

  1. Your child’s partner is extremely jealous or possessive.
  2. You notice unexplained marks or bruises.
  3. Your child’s partner emails or texts excessively.
  4. You notice that your child is depressed or anxious.
  5. Your child stops participating in extracurricular activities or other interests.
  6. Your child stops spending time with other friends and family.
  7. Your child’s partner abuses other people or animals.
  8. Your child begins to dress differently.
    (Signs from www.loveisrespect.org)

 

So what should you do if you notice these signs? Check out this article from loveisrespect.org that talks about what the next steps should be: http://www.loveisrespect.org/for-someone-else/help-my-child/

 

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Haven House has been providing free and confidential services to
domestic violence and sexual assault survivors since 1978. 
This includes everything from providing a safe place to stay in our emergency shelter
to helping survivors reestablish their own households.

We can only do what we do, because of the support of great people like you. 
Would you help us to help survivors and consider donating $5, $10, or $20?

Thank you.




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6 Things to Take with you when escaping domestic violence

If you’re planning to get out of an abusive relationship, you may be wondering what are some things that you should take with you when escaping domestic violence. However, if you believe your safety will be at risk by collecting these items, don’t put yourself in jeopardy. Get out first.  Our team can always work with you  to provide other solutions for the items you were unable to obtain.   If you are able to collect these items safely then it’s a great idea.

  • Money – You can guess the importance of this. You’ll be able to use this for gas, food, living expenses, toiletries, etc.
  • Emergency Phone Numbers – have numbers of friends, family and trustworthy people so you can still contact them when you leave, even if you don’t have your cell phone.
  • Medications – Make sure that if you or your children are in need of certain medications to grab those, especially if they are necessary for life threatening conditions (insulin, heart medication, etc.)
  • Extra keys to your house and car – You may need to go back to your home (with an escort) to collect various items that you weren’t able to collect when initially leaving. This way, in case your former-partner is being uncooperative you can still easily gain access to both your house and vehicles (make sure your name is on the title if you take a vehicle).
  • Important papers – Be sure to take birth certificates, restraining orders, picture IDs and other important documents. Having these will allow you to more easily step into your new life and provide the necessary papers for legal documents.
  • Clothes for you and your children

Our suggestion when leaving a domestic violence situation is that you should seek out your local domestic violence advocacy agency. They will often times have many of the items that you’ll need in order to get your new life started.

Check out this article at what items that you won’t necessarily need when coming to Haven House:  http://havenhousefsc.com/6-things-that-you-dont-need-to-pack-when-coming-to-haven-house/

 

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Haven House has been providing free and confidential services to
domestic violence and sexual assault survivors since 1978. 
This includes everything from providing a safe place to stay in our emergency shelter
to helping survivors reestablish their own households.

We can only do what we do, because of the support of great people like you. 
Would you help us to help survivors and consider donating $5, $10, or $20?

Thank you.




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6 Things That You Don’t Need to Pack when Coming to Haven House

Leaving a domestic violence situation can be often difficult and dangerous. However, you don’t deserve to be abused, and there is hope for a better life without abuse.

When leaving domestic violence, you may be tempted to pack up the whole house, but that is often not the case because you are often leaving as soon as the opportunity becomes available to.

So what are some items that you don’t have to worry about packing if you’re strapped on time and you’re heading to Haven House?

  • Clothing – At Haven House we have access to all the clothing that you’ll need for both yourself and your children (if you have kids). There have often been times when individuals have only escaped with the clothes on their back. Haven House also has brand new underwear too.
  • Toiletries – We have everything from toilet paper to diapers and toothpaste. You won’t have to go without in the area of hygiene.
  • Kitchen items – Our confidential shelters offer a fully stocked kitchen including everything from food to pots and pans.
  • Bedding – Our confidential shelters also offer comfortable beds and bedding for you and your children.
  • Laundry items – Our confidential shelters also have their own laundry rooms and detergent, etc.
  • Toys – If you have children, don’t worry about packing up all their toys. Our shelter locations have a variety of toys that you’re children will be able to play with.

One of our goals at Haven House is to help you on your way to a life without abuse, and we never want your safety to be in jeopardy, so we will do our utmost to make sure that you’re needs are met. If you can’t pack it, don’t worry about it, get to safety first.

If you are thinking of leaving a domestic violence situation, you can reach our team on our 24 Hour Crisis Line at 1-800-440-4633.

Not planning on coming to Haven House?  Check out this article on 6 items to pack up: http://havenhousefsc.com/6-things-to-take-with-you-when-escaping-domestic-violence/

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Haven House has been providing free and confidential services to
domestic violence and sexual assault survivors since 1978. 
This includes everything from providing a safe place to stay in our emergency shelter
to helping survivors reestablish their own households.

We can only do what we do, because of the support of great people like you. 
Would you help us to help survivors and consider donating $5, $10, or $20?

Thank you.




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10 Signs to Get Out of That Relationship

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10 Signs to Get OUT of that Dating Relationship!

1 in 3 young people (teenagers) will be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship.  This means that either you or someone you know is either currently involved in an abusive relationship or has been.  In dating relationships it is often thought that the behavior of the abusive partner will improve, but dating violence only increases as the relationship lengthens.

So what are some signs that you should get out of the relationship before it gets worse?

10.  Your boyfriend/girlfriend is often checking cell phones, emails or social networks without your permission.

9.  Exhibits extreme jealousy or insecurity.

8.  Constantly belittles you and puts you down (verbal abuse).

7.  Has an explosive temper (not only towards you but could directed at others).

6.  Isolates you from family and friends.

5.  Has erractic mood swings.

4.  Physically inflicts pain or hurts you in any way.

3.  Is constantly calling, texting or contacting you in a harassing manner.

2.  Repeatedly pressuring you to have sex or commit sexual acts.

1.  Makes false accusations.

If you notice 1 or many of these signs in your relationship it may be time to leave that relationship.  There's no excuse for abuse and you don't deserve to be abused.

You can speak with one of our team members today by calling our 24 Hour Crisis Line at 1-800-440-4633 or email us at havenhouse@qwestoffice.net.  If you know someone who is experiencing dating violence you can also visit with one of our team members to find out what you can do to help your friend.

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Haven House has been providing free and confidential services to
domestic violence and sexual assault survivors since 1978. 
This includes everything from providing a safe place to stay in our emergency shelter
to helping survivors reestablish their own households.

We can only do what we do, because of the support of great people like you. 
Would you help us to help survivors and consider donating $5, $10, or $20?

Thank you.




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